JHud Engaged to Punk

Chile...this just off the presses:

"Jennifer Hudson and boyfriend, David Otunga, have gotten engaged, her rep tells PEOPLE exclusively. 'I can confirm that Jennifer got engaged to her boyfriend David on Friday night in L.A.' says the rep. Otunga, who is known as 'Punk' from the reality show I Love New York 2, popped the question with a Neil Lane diamond ring on the Dreamgirls Oscar winner's 27th birthday. The couple, who have been dating less than a year, both hail from Chicago. Professionally, it is a busy time for Hudson as well. Her debut solo album, Jennifer Hudson, will be in stores Sept. 30, and her next film, The Secret Life of Bees opens on Oct. 17."

Okay, I'm going to refrain from citing Otunga's "suspect" sexuality, which implies that there is a non-suspect sexuality--and no, heterosexuality is not it! (Although I do agree with Katrina Renae from ThickMisses that homie does look a bit like Terry McMillian’s ex. LOL. ) But I will say that I probably would not want to make out with anyone who has kissed New York (who has kissed Flavor Flav--ooh, the bile is rising in my throat). I mean, here's to hoping she has an ironclad pre-nup. I don't give a ding dang about no love. In related news, here's a clip from JHud's recent hoodfab appearance in Montgomery, AL that I was lucky enough to attend and have been meaning to put up. The child can blow.

Yes, I know that you are seeing other people's heads. Those mofos were in my way! But at least a sista got some good audio, right? I actually saw Punk at this performance. He stood looking longingly while JHud handled her biz in a particularly touching love song (something about giving all of herself, or something). I must say he is the most unphotogenic human on the planet because he was fairly handsome in person, something you do not get from the pics. Go figure.

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Didn't you know this? Or didn't you notice?

Anyone who knows me knows that I heart Jill Scott. Indeed, when the movie of my life is made, I want her to play me.

Earlier this week Jill Scott announced her engagement to her bandmate/drummer John Roberts during a concert at Carnegie Hall. Last year she divorced from her husband Lyzel Williams.

Now, I've read a lot of hateration about Jill's love life since this announcement: it's too soon after her divorce, you shouldn't date someone you work with (or who works for you), he's a gold digger, this reeks of desperation, and so on. And, I must admit, my first inclination was to be like "Jill, I hope you make him sign an iron clad pre-nup!" But, since we don't know these folks and can only speculate, what can we really say?

I have been thinking a lot about love lately. I've taught courses on the role of love in literature and it's always so interesting to hear undergrads wax poetic about "true love" and all sorts of other nonsense. But, in all due seriousness, the politics of Jill's move aside, I think much of hate out there about this is about scarcity.

What do I mean by scarcity? I mean operating from an ideology or epistemology of scarcity. The idea that fundamentally there is lack, that there just isn't enough in the universe. Enough food, enough money, enough love. I am not claiming there isn't poverty in the world; it is for real and definitely not imagined. Indeed, there is enough to go around, just not everybody's getting it. But that's a whole nother blog.

What I mean by poverty is poverty of imagination. You know, this idea that you have one soul mate and if you don't find that mofo, that's it. The idea that if you are 35 you are going to get hit by lightning before you get booed up. I refute it and rebuke it. Maybe it isn't the wisest move to marry your drummer (or maybe it's a brilliant move, I dunno), but I do not doubt there is enough love out there for Jill to go through a horrible divorce and find love the next year. And not because she's "Jill Scott" but because she's a human being. And don't we all want to be loved?